It is a human right for everyone to have a safe childhood - this is simply not possible in an environment where the child is subjected to mental torture and perpetual psychological slavery as a result of embedded fear and the lack of independent supporters.
The prognosis for a good recovery is largely dependent upon the response the victim receives from others. A vast array of ignorance and reaction are the mainstay of a survivors journey of recovery; this is evident in the differing styles of support. A secular evidence based support system has no ultimate god or supreme being that the survivor can develop new delusions of association with a figure that abandoned them as young innocent children - that is not recovery; that is supposedly a religious "healing" built on a framework of deception, mythology, superstition and place in a hierarchy of billions. There is only survival in such an environment as their true sense of self is again hidden away and may never rise again. The truth of their experience will never be fully told or acted on due to the propensity of religion and its followers to be able to construct excuses at any point in their religious healing. An evidence based recovery program offers no delusions, no fantasy, no mythology and no superstitions, instead it can provide a real pathway to help open up for the first time in their life their real personality - the personality that was forced into seclusion and hiding as a result of the lack of empathy and the need to fit the survivor into their supposed place in the hierarchical system that is found in every religion. They remain at risk of further exploitation.
Many fall victim to the faith healing claims of religion or the religious where proponents claim "spiritual abuse" and seek to treat that with a range of cultural repetitions; for many survivors of abuse by clergy this often results in the victim being drawn back into the religious system that originally bonded them to their abusers where they are set for the next round of psychological control in a perpetual war against their own personal development as they can never reach a suitable level of personal power and authority within the hierarchical structures of religion.
The human rights of the child are re-sold to them as being returned to their "rightful" place; this simply makes them a sacrifice to the wants of an insatiable god and system. The rightful place for all humans is to be free of psychological torment, psychological entrapment and psychological slavery so that they can develop to their full potential; this can never happen in a religious environment where power and control are everything for those higher up the chain.
The best advice I can give with regard to recovery from trauma is to explore your attachments and/or other relationship vulnerabilities safely with evidence based trauma informed specialists or you can privately Learn the Science of Healthy Attachment Relationships in a safe, low cost self timed manner.
*I have no financial connection nor do I receive any reward for promoting effective treatment other than knowing that others can and do benefit greatly from them as I have.
I was fortunate enough to have obtained the services of Dr Julian Lim when he was working in my city but unfortunately we lost connection for a while. Reconnecting with an experienced and well qualified trauma informed evidence based professional making him the safest and the most knowledgeable I have engaged with and this has been transformational for me. Dr Lim has my full and confident recommendation. Dr Julian Lim
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APRIL 3 2019 - 5:30PM - Clergy sex abuse survivor Paul Levey sues Catholic Church and includes why many survivors do not seek compensation via politicians, police or the criminal justice system. You can read Paul's first public statement about his experience which was first published here in 2016 For those who don't know my story here it is. Paul Levey Paul thumbed the entire document on his mobile one letter at a time.
John Brown was born in Yea Victoria 3717 on 27 December, 1948. John grew up in Yea, he went to the Catholic school on The Parade Yea and then a final year at Yea High school in Station Street. He undertook an apprenticeship as a Hand and Machine Compositor/Linotype Mechanic at the local newspaper The Yea Chronicle who recently declined to publish John's story. John left Yea after realising that the proprietor and local policeman Bill Ellison along with other local Catholics in his hometown and surrounds at that time were well aware of his abuse and of the rape and abuse of other children in Yea and district and were aware of the many events surrounding the murder of Herbert Henry Kemp of Yea ...... read more and more and more and Site Map
Investigation of an unsolved murder in 1962 can no longer be investigated according to police taskforce SANO because a different pedophile Catholic clergyman who raped a child at age 8 is now dead. As a result of the dead rapist being unconnected with the murder Victorian police remain clue less.
Later in life John married in Toowoomba only to begin the most bizarre period in his life as he learned that he wasnow related by marriage to the then bishop of Toowoomba Bill Morris. Morris was the head of the bishops conference at that time and was the "Go to" person in the country for survivors of childhood sexual abuse by Catholic clergy and yet I was never able to get a time or a conversation with the bishop. I did get conversations or connection with a number of Catholic organisations with varying degrees of weirdness some of which I have written about in my blog The FAQyMe Gene & the lifelong search for safe, moral and ethical social justice, the Human Right to a trauma informed and evidence based recovery and social re-engagement unhindered by the fear, anger, blockages or projections from other people's gods .
John is author and publisher of #TraumaTheory and regularly blogs at The FAQyMe Gene on his journey, recovery and the horror and the scale of this global issue.
John's personal story is just another from the hundreds of millions of other stories across the globe eminating from the human rights abuses and ongoing horrors of the systemic rape, abuses of trust, fraud, deception and cover up in the global Catholic and other religions. Like those others his "issues in life" arose and remain simply because his abusers as a child were just like theirs in that their rapists and abusers were Catholic or Catholic or Christian clergy and they too remain ineligible or unable to have their human rights upheld in their lifetime..