The FAQyMe gene

Chapter 59

Human stalking, predators and other early childhood skills

I admit to having not been out as much recently - being stalked, monitored and spied upon does have that affect, it gets higher when a supposedly safe GP/psychiatrist/psychologist wants to medicate you as a result of expressing very natural levels of anxiety when you acknowledge your reality that you have become human prey to someone - that is a reality that many do not want to admit.

In humans fear, psychiatric drugs and religion are the known drivers that I am aware of that cause people to become predators.

When we are in predatory mode the one thing we do not need is empathy for our perceived victim; the human brain has evolved to function in this way to ensure the survival of individuals. Your humanity, your logic and your reason have evolved alongside this so that we can be acceptable fellow humans; only when we are conflicted or compromised do we over-ride the desire for peace and harmony, only then do we act against our own children to vent our unresolved toxic conflicts.

When we have empathy we feel it unthinkable to plot against someone; to prey on them via their known vulnerabilities which may have been obtained as a result of early toxic relationships or failed attempts to connect or obtained through the benefit of a failed relationship with a targeted individual.

When we are in predatory mode empathy is suppressed; when empathy is repressed we become human parasites willing to harm and damage fellow humans.

Empathy received is the lifeblood of survival for new born children as without it they die very quickly.

My favourite author of non-fiction Alice Miller wrote of this - she referred to those whom the newborn or vulnerable child connected with as a result of positive interactions on the part of those others through their taking actions to ensure the vulnerable child's' safety and protection as being an "enlightened witness" for that child. This is an un-stated position for the many who had the misfortune to have been repeatedly duped, exploited, used and abused before their developing brains had the words or language or ability to express that in any real way. A dividing line between reason and reaction.

Those who never experienced such a feeling of safety can not when they get older allow any real forms of emotional connections to exist as that would see tham being at constant risk. This can come as a result of never previously having experienced any real connections in their own childhood.

In my world of clergy abuse this becomes an obvious issue for the many who were forced to turn to the religion that had/was abusing them - as the reality of the present day knowledge of the failures of their religion sink in their risk of suicide or repeats of predation goes up as they have had no enlightened witness to turn to or memory of such a personal experience. They will target those they see as being vulnerable in some regard.

These forms of opinion making or conclusions are made at a very early age during the earliest development period of the rapidly developing brain. The conclusion comes from recognition that there is no way to surmount the forces aligned against the child. Such a toxic experience will last a lifetime unless the victim identifies clearly the culprits and challenges them to the extent that they declare themselves free of any influence of their original abusers.

Later in life the unresolved victims get to fear those who were able to surmount those events; the survivors through having the good fortune of an enlightened witness are better adapted for survival.

Take the example of a child who was overwhelmed by the power and the abuse of one or both parents who through alcohol and a dysfunctional childhood of their own withheld from their child the very connection that ensures their child a safe nurturing environment in which to develop.

I was more fortunate than most in that I had two people that stepped out and stood up for me on my behalf during a vulnerable childhood - who would want to tear that down? Only those who have never experienced it; only those who fear it and the loss of their power and control by their abuser that that brings. Certainly not those who have a better experience than I did and were fortunate enough to have found an entire family or community that supported them.

Logically those who never experienced it or like those of us who experienced over and over the falseness of proffered love through inducements that is only used to obtain advantage in predatory stakes - this is what underlies gaslighting and stalking. Stalking can be perpetuated as a result of habituation of experience or as a result of unspoken conclusions drawn from the failure of every attempt in their early existence to obtain a real connection with another human.

The Rejected stalker (From: Stalking Risk Profile)

Rejected stalking arises in the context of the breakdown of a close relationship. Victims are usually former sexual intimates; however family members, close friends, or others with a very close relationship to the stalker can also become targets of Rejected stalking. The initial motivation of a Rejected stalker is either attempting to reconcile the relationship, or to exacting revenge for a perceived rejection. In many cases Rejected stalkers present as ambivalent about the victim and sometimes appear to want the relationship back, while at other times they are clearly angry and want revenge on the victim. In some cases of protracted stalking, the behaviour is maintained because becomes a substitute for the past relationship as it allows the stalker to continue to feel close to the victim. In other cases the behaviour is maintained because it allows the stalker to salvage their damaged self-esteem and feel better about themselves

The Resentful stalker (From: Stalking Risk Profile)

Resentful stalking arises when the stalker feels as though they have been mistreated or that they are the victim of some form of injustice or humiliation. Victims are strangers or acquaintances who are seen to have mistreated the stalker. Resentful stalking can arise out of a severe mental illness when the perpetrator develops paranoid beliefs about the victim and uses stalking as a way of 'getting back' at the victim. The initial motivation for stalking is the desire for revenge or to 'even the score' and the stalking is maintained by the sense of power and control that the stalker derives from inducing fear in the victim. Often Resentful stalkers present themselves as a victim who is justified in using stalking to fight back against an oppressing person or organisation.

See also: Stalking and Mental Illness)


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APRIL 3 2019 - 5:30PM - Clergy sex abuse survivor Paul Levey sues Catholic Church and includes why many survivors do not seek compensation via politicians, police or the criminal justice system. You can read Paul's first public statement about his experience which was first published here in 2016 For those who don't know my story here it is. Paul Levey Paul thumbed the entire document on his mobile one letter at a time.

John Brown was born in Yea Victoria 3717 on 27 December, 1948. John grew up in Yea, he went to the Catholic school on The Parade Yea and then a final year at Yea High school in Station Street. He undertook an apprenticeship as a Hand and Machine Compositor/Linotype Mechanic at the local newspaper The Yea Chronicle who recently declined to publish John's story. John left Yea after realising that the proprietor and local policeman Bill Ellison along with other local Catholics in his hometown and surrounds at that time were well aware of his abuse and of the rape and abuse of other children in Yea and district and were aware of the many events surrounding the murder of Herbert Henry Kemp of Yea ...... read more and more and more and Site Map

Investigation of an unsolved murder in 1962 can no longer be investigated according to police taskforce SANO because a different pedophile Catholic clergyman who raped a child at age 8 is now dead. As a result of the dead rapist being unconnected with the murder Victorian police remain clue less.

Later in life John married in Toowoomba only to begin the most bizarre period in his life as he learned that he wasnow related by marriage to the then bishop of Toowoomba Bill Morris. Morris was the head of the bishops conference at that time and was the "Go to" person in the country for survivors of childhood sexual abuse by Catholic clergy and yet I was never able to get a time or a conversation with the bishop. I did get conversations or connection with a number of Catholic organisations with varying degrees of weirdness some of which I have written about in my blog The FAQyMe Gene & the lifelong search for safe, moral and ethical social justice, the Human Right to a trauma informed and evidence based recovery and social re-engagement unhindered by the fear, anger, blockages or projections from other people's gods .

John is author and publisher of Trauma in Religion and regularly blogs at The FAQyMe Gene on his journey, recovery and the horror and the scale of this global issue.

John's personal story is just another from the hundreds of millions of other stories across the globe eminating from the human rights abuses and ongoing horrors of the systemic rape, abuses of trust, fraud, deception and cover up in the global Catholic and other religions. Like those others his "issues in life" arose and remain simply because his abusers as a child were just like theirs in that their rapists and abusers were Catholic or Catholic or Christian clergy and they too remain ineligible or unable to have their human rights upheld in their lifetime..

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